UPCOMING EVENTS
THEYFRIEND Nonbinary Meetup
Celebrate International Nonbinary People’s Day on Tuesday, July 14, 5:30 - 8:30 PM with an evening of connection, conversation, and community at Temescal Brewing. Whether you're a longtime THEYFRIEND attendee, new to exploring your gender, or simply looking to meet other nonbinary folks, you're invited to pull up a chair and hang out.
2026 THEYFRIEND Artist Deadline
Apply to be part of the 2026 THEYFRIEND Nonbinary Performance Festival, happening November 12 - 14 in San Francisco and online!
2026 THEYFRIEND Application Workshop
Join us for a virtual workshop going through the 2026 THEYFRIEND Nonbinary Performance Festival application. We’ll go through the curator’s vision, application questions, and all your questions too.
Karaokiki: They/Them Energy
On Thursday, June 18, Karaokiki is donating 100% of Karaoke Jockey (KJ) cash tips to Diamond Wave in support of the 2026 THEYFRIEND Nonbinary Performance Festival. Come sing your favorite song, cheer on your friends, and help support one of San Francisco's annual celebrations of nonbinary artistry and belonging. Whether you're taking the stage or enjoying the show from the crowd, every cash tip helps sustain THEYFRIEND and its mission to create joyful, interactive experiences that uplift nonbinary people and foster nonbinary belonging.
Karaokiki + THEYFRIEND
On Thursday, June 18, Karaokiki is donating 100% of Karaoke Jockey (KJ) cash tips to Diamond Wave in support of the 2026 THEYFRIEND Nonbinary Performance Festival. Come sing your favorite song, cheer on your friends, and help support one of San Francisco's annual celebrations of nonbinary artistry and belonging. Whether you're taking the stage or enjoying the show from the crowd, every cash tip helps sustain THEYFRIEND and its mission to create joyful, interactive experiences that uplift nonbinary people and foster nonbinary belonging.
THUSSY: A Community Conversation on Nonbinary Vaginas
Join Diamond Wave and Lylac Health for THUSSY, a bold, community-centered conversation on nonbinary vaginas. Happening April 23 in San Francisco, this interactive evening will feature local nonbinary artists, vaginal health professionals, drinks, snacks, and honest dialogue celebrating gender expansive bodies, creativity, and care.
Queer Soup Night - THEYFRIEND
Join Diamond Wave, THEYFRIEND and the Nosh Box for the March edition of Queer Soup Night!
Nonbinary Voices for TDOV: Video Deadline
Nonbinary Voices for Trans Day of Visibility (TDOV)
Submission Deadline: 11:59 PM on February 27, 2026
Submission Deadline EXTENDED: 11:59 PM on March 9, 2026
About the Project
For Trans Day of Visibility (TDOV), Diamond Wave and THEYFRIEND are gathering voices from across the nonbinary community in a collective video to remind each other that we are not alone.
We are many, we are expansive, and we are worthy of love, care, joy, and celebration.
This call is open to all nonbinary people, however you identify and however you arrived here. There is no one right way to be nonbinary. We want the messy, the joyful, the emo, and the still-figuring-it-out.
What We’re Asking For
We’re inviting you to share a short video or audio recording (up to 90 seconds) introducing yourself and responding to one or more of the following prompts:
What does nonbinary mean to you?
When or how did you know you were nonbinary?
What “flavor” of nonbinary are you?
You’re also welcome to include music, photos, images, or other visuals that help celebrate your nonbinary self - your body, your joy, your survival.
There is no one right way to participate; feel free to submit whatever centers your ability and safety.
These submissions will be woven together into a collective love letter, a reflection of how wide, creative, and powerful our nonbinary community truly is.
How to Participate
Please begin your video or audio by sharing your name and pronouns. After that, repeat the question you’re responding to, then share your answer.
Your response(s) should be 10 - 45 seconds.
Short responses are perfect. One sentence is enough.
You are welcome to respond to one, two, or all three questions, there is no expectation to answer everything.
Share only what feels safe.
You do NOT need to repeat your name and pronouns.
Your entire video should be no more than 90 seconds in length.
Once you’ve recorded your video, you can upload your video, audio or other media to this form.
We’re centering many voices in this process. While we may not be able to include every submission, we will do our best to honor the breadth and beauty of our nonbinary community. There’s no need to be polished, speak from the heart. Submissions may be edited for length and clarity while honoring your voice and intention.
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Hi, my name is Jenna Neutral, and my pronouns are they/them.
“What does nonbinary mean to you?”
To me, nonbinary means freedom from traditional gender norms. It means I get to define myself outside of expectations about who I’m supposed to be.“When or how did you know you were nonbinary?”
There wasn’t one big moment. It was more like a slow realization that “woman” didn’t quite fit, and neither did “man.” Learning the word “nonbinary” felt like exhaling. It gave me language for something I’d felt for a long time.
Accessibility + Privacy
If video or audio isn’t accessible to you, written submissions are welcome and will be read aloud by THEYFRIEND advisors. If you need help recording or uploading, email Vin Seaman at vin@diamond-wave.org.
We want this project to be as accessible and safe as possible. You may:
Use your full name, first name only, or a pseudonym.
Submit audio, video, or written responses.
Choose not to appear visually.
Let us know any privacy or accessibility preferences in your submission.
By submitting, you agree to allow Diamond Wave to use your name, voice, image, likeness, and any submitted media in the Nonbinary Voices for TDOV video, which will be shared via social media and the Diamond Wave website. Please be sure to review the various submission and privacy options we offer within the form.
All portrait and group photos by Marcella Sanchez
To Participate
THEYFRIEND Festival 2025: Performance 2
Join us for two nights of nonbinary music, drag, dance, comedy, and more!
2025 THEYFRIEND Nonbinary Performance Festival
Join us in the afternoon on Saturday, November 15 for our Nonbinary Vendor Fair! An exciting part of our 2025 THEYFRIEND Nonbinary Performance Festival
THEYFRIEND Festival 2025: Performance 1
Join us for two nights of nonbinary music, drag, dance, comedy, and more!
Call For Vendors (THEYFRIEND 2025 Vendor Fair)
We are seeking nonprofits, makers, wellness practitioners, and other nonbinary community businesses to participate in our vendor fair on 11/15/25 as part of the fifth annual THEYFRIEND Nonbinary Performance Festival. Join us in celebrating nonbinary community, joy, and grounding!
Queer Nonprofit Happy Hour
Join us at Queer Nonprofit Happy Hour (Sept 9 @ The Stud) for queer community, cocktails, a drag battle, and to support Diamond Wave & Mission Action!
The Future Was Always Nonbinary
Join Diamond Wave to celebrate Transgender History Month with this virtual session where nonbinary dreamers reimagine the past, present, and future through art, story, and shared joy.
International Nonbinary People’s Day: Creative Social
Don’t celebrate alone, join Diamond Wave at 5:30 PM on Monday 7/14 for an in-person creative salon at Pacific Felt Factory (Mission District, SF) to celebrate International Nonbinary People’s Day in community.
International Nonbinary People’s Day: Instagram Live!
Join us on Instagram Live on Monday 7/14 @ 3:30 PM PT for a joyful and honest conversation on nonbinary identity featuring our brilliant THEYFRIEND advisors Rawiyah Tariq, Roy Eikleberry and Sister Tilda Nexttime alongside Director Vin Seaman.
Rainbow Runway with THEYFRIEND
Join the THEYFRIEND Nonbinary Performance Festival for an all ages event part of San Francisco Public Library's Afternoon of Ideas!
THEYFRIEND: Enby Visible!
Join Diamond Wave and photographer Marcella Sanchez at Pacific Felt Factory for an individual portraits and our nonbinary community photo!
THEYFRIEND 2024: Gender Upheaval Party
2024 THEYFRIEND, Day 5 - Close out THEYFRIEND at OASIS by saying goodbye to gender reveals, and hello to gender upheaval!
THEYFRIEND 2024: Limitless Expression
2024 THEYFRIEND, Day 4 - Come to downtown Oakland for a daytime celebration exploring nonbinary liberation with music, art, vendors and community!
THEYFRIEND 2024: You Are Nonbinary!
2024 THEYFRIEND, Day 3 - Dive into an immersive world at Harvey Milk Center for the Arts where nonbinary is the norm, and gender has no limits!
THEYFRIEND 2024: Spoons & Spice
2024 THEYFRIEND, Day 2 - Join us at SOMArts for an unapologetic peek inside the lives of neurospicy, disabled, and chronically ill nonbinary performers.
THEYFRIEND 2024: PHULL PHANTASY
2024 THEYFRIEND, Day 1 - Get ready for a thrilling night of virtual video performances from nonbinary BIPOC performers exploring mysticism and fantasy!
THEYFRIEND Nonbinary Cabaret - October
Need to juice up on your NONBINARY energy but can’t wait until November for the THEYFRIEND Nonbinary Performance Festival? Well enbies, you’re in luck! Join us August 15 at the Brava Cabaret for a thrilling night of live performance uplifting, centering and celebrating nonbinary identity!
THEYFRIEND Nonbinary Cabaret - September
Need to juice up on your NONBINARY energy but can’t wait until November for the THEYFRIEND Nonbinary Performance Festival? Well enbies, you’re in luck! Join us August 15 at the Brava Cabaret for a thrilling night of live performance uplifting, centering and celebrating nonbinary identity!
THEYFRIEND Nonbinary Cabaret - August
Need to juice up on your NONBINARY energy but can’t wait until November for the THEYFRIEND Nonbinary Performance Festival? Well enbies, you’re in luck! Join us August 15 at the Brava Cabaret for a thrilling night of live performance uplifting, centering and celebrating nonbinary identity!
THEYFRIEND @ The Academy
This intimate event featuring nonbinary performers gives a peek inside the creative process and the search for nonbinary belonging. Featuring performances and a panel discussion from Honey Mahogany, Criibaby, and Vin Seaman! Although this event focuses on nonbinary identity, we welcome people of all gender identities to deepen their understandings and enjoy the performances.
THEYFRIEND: Enby Day!
Diamond Wave and the James C. Hormel LGBTQIA Center present THEYFRIEND: Enby Day! A performance and panel celebrating 2024 International Nonbinary People’s Day at the SF Public Library. Join us July 13 for a one-of-a-kind event dedicated to honoring and uplifting nonbinary (enby/enbie) voices as we dive deep into the heart of nonbinary experiences.
THEYFRIEND Artist Application Workshop
Find out more about the 2024 THEYFRIEND Nonbinary Performance Festival and our performer application process. This workshop will walk through the application and offer a space to ask questions about the overall festival and our five distinct showcases.
THEYFRIEND Nonbinary Cabaret - AAPI Hertiage Month
Join us for an all AAPI showcase of our spring THEYFRIEND Nonbinary Cabaret series featuring Asian, Asian American and Pacific Islander multidisciplinary nonbinary artists!
THEYFRIEND Nonbinary Cabaret - April
Join us for our April THEYFRIEND Nonbinary Cabaret featuring multidisciplinary nonbinary artists!
THEYFRIEND Nonbinary Cabaret
Join us for the launch of our spring THEYFRIEND Nonbinary Cabaret series featuring multidisciplinary nonbinary artists!
